speech, and to talk through emotions and reduce them to words, words that still hurt, but (one hopes) at a slightly lower level on the pain scale. Sandy Broyard, mourning her husband’s lost battle with prostate cancer, describes the value of words as “pulling forwards and through” (2005, 55). In Shakespeare’s Macbeth the bereaved Macduff is told, “Give sorrow words: the grief that does not speak / Whispers the o’er-fraught heart, and bids it break.” Dorothee Soelle has written of the need “to find